This is a bit different for me. I just finished The Book of Acts by Dr. Russell Welch. Dr. Welch argues that Acts is a blueprint for what the church should look like, not just a history book. However, if you are looking for how these truths get integrated into relational gatherings in practical ways, it falls a bit short. I decided not to post an excerpt from his book but I am posting this awesome article I found about children being participants in relational gatherings.

The house church is a womb for generational blessing, where spiritual inheritance is passed not through programs, but through presence. Keeping children with their parents under the same Word is a divine safeguard. Proverbs 22:6 commands us to “train up a child in the way he should go,” not outsource that training to systems that may not carry the heart of the Father.

In the house church, children are not exposed to worldly corruption or spiritual abuse – they are covered. Psalm 91:4 declares, “His truth shall be your shield and buckler.” The Word becomes a fortress around the family, guarding hearts and minds from the schemes of the enemy.

The enemy has long targeted children – through Pharaoh, through Herod, and now through modern culture. But God is raising up homes like Goshen, places of protection and glory. In Exodus 12, the blood was applied to the doorposts of homes – not temples – and the angel of death passed over.

Today, the house church is a place where the blood of Jesus is honored, and the enemy cannot trespass. It is a place where healing flows, identity is restored, and trauma is broken off by the power of the Cross.

Sexual abuse and manipulation often thrive in environments where children are isolated, silenced, or treated as second-class. But in the house church, they are seen, heard, and valued. Jesus placed a child in the midst of His disciples and said, “Whoever receives one little child like this in My name receives Me” (Matthew 18:5).

This is not sentiment – it’s strategy. When children are honored in the Spirit, the enemy loses his grip. The house church becomes a place of safety, not secrecy.

Fellowship as a family is not just beautiful – it’s powerful. Psalm 133 says, “Behold, how good and pleasant it is when brethren dwell together in unity… for there the Lord commands the blessing.”

That blessing flows through generations when families are knit together in Christ. The house church is not a downgrade – it’s an upgrade. It is where the oil of intimacy flows, where sons and daughters prophesy, and where the Spirit of Elijah prepares the way for the Lord.

Let us reject the spirit of religion and embrace the Spirit of adoption (Romans 8:15). Let us build homes that host His glory, raise up warriors from the womb, and disciple not just individuals – but entire households.

As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord (Joshua 24:15). The house church is not just a model – it’s a movement. And it’s time to gather the family, apply the Word, and watch heaven invade our homes.

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I really enjoyed Bob Emery’s newest book, House Church and would recommend it. I have included a short excerpt below, addressing an issue that is one of the hardest to overcome when doing life together. Bob also includes a short but brilliant chapter addressing Paul’s writing concerning women in 1 Corinthians 14. If you’re interested in knowing what is happening in Iran and other Muslim countries, Bob has included some encouraging case studies. Want more information about Bob, click here.

Imagine that you were a member of the tribe of Judah. You lived a short distance away from Jerusalem. During the months leading up to one of the feasts, you and your family had been busy working hard to produce olive oil. You had labored diligently watering, fertilizing, and pruning your olive trees. Finally, when the olives had ripened, you shook the trees or beat the branches with a stick to cause the berries to fall to the ground. Then you collected the ripe olives. Some were eaten with meals and enjoyed fresh; others were pressed into oil to use for cooking, fueling lamps, providing anointing oil, or dressing wounds. At feast time you would collect the choicest of the berries and the best of the oil, to bring to Jerusalem to offer to the Lord, and to bless the Lord for all that he had given you from the land of your inheritance.

As you saw other pilgrims enter the city, each carried with them the work of their hands as well. You spot some old friends from the tribes that lived on the coast. After embracing and exchanging greetings, your friends reached in their sacks and pulled from them the biggest, finest pomegranates you had ever seen. You rejoiced together at what a wonderful harvest the Lord your God had given in the land. Then you pulled from your own sack a handful of the largest, blackest olive berries they had ever seen. You gave a handful to your friends to eat, and once again, you all praised God for the bountiful harvest he had given you.

One by one, pilgrims entered the city. Pairs of men with poles running from one’s shoulder to the other carried large, beautiful clusters of grapes; others had carts with huge sheaves of golden wheat; others brought jars of the finest honey; still others came with metal instruments forged from the minerals that had been mined from the mountains.

As everyone came together and witnessed the bountiful provision that God had given to each one, they blessed God, offered to him the finest of the fruits, and rejoiced with one another for the wonderful land that God had given them.

Now, how does this apply to us today? In the Old Testament, God gave the Jews a physical land for their inheritance. But this was just a picture for us. The good land, flowing with milk and honey, was only a picture of the abundance of our spiritual inheritance in Christ. He wants to be our everything to enjoy. He also gave the Israelites a physical temple. Their physical temple made of stone, where the glory of God dwelt, was also a picture for how we, believers in Christ, are now the real temple with the Spirit of God dwelling in us. Those festivals were also a picture. This joyous, festive scene where people all came together to display the abundance of the good land they had been given is also a picture of what a church meeting should look like!

Back to 1 Corinthians 14:26: “What is the outcome then, brothers and sisters? When you assemble, each one has a psalm, has a teaching, has a revelation, has a tongue, has an interpretation. All things are to be done for edification.”

As Christians, Christ is our good land. Every day we need to work the land, spend time with Christ, and enjoy Him. Then, select from our finest experiences with him and bring those to the meetings of the church to share with our brothers and sisters. That could be a testimony, a song, a passage of Scripture, some revelation of Christ that you have received. God wants us to bring the riches that we have found in Christ to the meetings and celebrate, as it were, a great feast with our brothers and sisters-feeding together on the riches of Christ and what he has done in each of our lives. As each one shares what God has given to them, the whole body is edified and will rejoice, Christ will be lifted up, and we will all praise God for such a rich Christ that we have!

In the Old Testament, each family in each tribe was given a portion of the land to enjoy. But if they didn’t work the land, they’d have nothing to show for it, and they would have to come to the feasts empty-handed. If you want to have good house-church meetings, you’ll need to work the land too, so that you will have something of Christ to bring to the meetings to encourage the others. It could be very simple-it doesn’t need to be a long message. Something as simple as, “This morning the Lord touched my heart with the words of a song, and I’d like to share it with you (or have the group sing it together).” Or “I lost my keys today and couldn’t find them. Finally, I prayed and immediately the Lord showed me where they were.” Any experience or revelation of Christ you have, that’s meeting material, so you won’t show up empty-handed.

As glorious as this might sound, it’s still much harder to meet this way than to go to a traditional church meeting on Sunday morning, where the pastor preaches, and the program is set. It’s much easier to watch a performance and let a strong personality take charge. Going to those kinds of meetings, all you must do is show up. There’s no need for you to “work the land” or spend any time with the Lord preparing for what He might have you bring to encourage your brothers and sisters. In the kinds of meetings that took place in the first century, however, everyone was responsible for bringing something of Christ to make the meetings rich.

From my own experience as a Christian, I have learned that one can only grow so much (spiritually) by sitting week after week, month after month, year after year listening to others. The next stage of growth takes place when you are given some responsibility. Say that you were among a group of Christians and asked by someone to lead a Bible study the next week. What might your first reaction be? Panic! “What am I going to say? What am I going to teach?” But your next reaction would be, “I need to pray; I need to spend time with the Lord, so I will have something meaningful to give.” You don’t want to come empty-handed. Responsibility drives you to the Lord, which causes you to spend time with him, receive from him, and have something to share with others. Out of these kinds of experiences, deeper spiritual growth and stronger spiritual disciplines will manifest themselves in your life.

Here is a good test by which to gauge whether you are attending a first-century style church meetings or not: Next time you “go to church,” ask yourself this: Am I going to a meeting to be a passive spectator at a performance? Or am I going to be a participant?

Using soccer as an analogy, are you going to sit in the stands with 50,000 other spectators to cheer the performance of 22 players on the field? Or are you going to play in the game? First-century style meetings were filled with players, not spectators. Each one had an opportunity to participate and contribute. In this way, Jesus Christ, the Head of the Church, would be glorified through the proper working of each member of his body, and his multi-faceted riches would be revealed.

Moving church meetings back into the homes, where they belong, is the only way Christians of the 21st century can possibly experience what the early Christians understood as “church.”

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This is another excerpt from The Other Half of Church by Jim Wilder & Michel Hendricks. This book is not your typical house church book but it is highly recommended. You can get a taste by reading the excerpt below. You can read the first excerpt on Joy here.

Whole-brained Christianity makes full use of truth and relationship. Half-brained Christianity parks on the truth and leaves the relational soil untended.

Jesus wants a church with healthy soil that keeps relationships in the center. Each of the four ingredients of healthy soil is relational. Joy is what I feel when my brain senses that you are happy to be with me. Hesed is our family attachment of joyful love. Group identity is our corporate map of who we are and how we act as children of the living God. Our culture of correction leaves no man or woman behind. When someone forgets who they are, we bring them back gently to their true self. Healthy soil is relational through and through.

By building a foundation of relational joy, love, and identity, we create an environment where we naturally and regularly witness transformation. We expect radical change when people join our community. As we reintroduce right-brain practices into our discipleship-along with the traditional left-brain spiritual disciplines we are using the full-brain power that God gave us to form our character. The Great Commission displaces the great omission as our people learn to obey Jesus with heart and mind. All of us eagerly accept correction when we stop acting like ourselves.

People choose to be involved in a particular Christian community for many reasons. The primary attraction of a full-brained community is our joy and love. People might not remark, “Their teaching is so good.” “I love the music there.” “That pastor is such a good teacher.” Instead, they might say, “These people love each other so much.” “This room is filled with joy.” “I want to be like them.” Love is the centerpiece of everything a full-brained church does. A church planted in rich relational soil may be less visually stimulating than other churches, but it is relationally stimulating. Being stimulated by love and joy is more important than being stimulated by other factors.

Unlike most Christian leaders, the relational pastor intentionally stays small. People are not impressed by this pastor, except by his humility and maturity. A full-brained community is impressed by Jesus alone and sees any attempt to magnify another person as an opportunity to offer a gentle rebuke. In a healthy church, people talk about Jesus all the time. They seldom talk about the pastor, and this is as it should be. Jesus is large and in charge. The pastor is but one of many people in a community where all faithfully complete the assignments Jesus gave them.

Pastors and other leaders stay small and act like trainers-laser focused on creating a relational environment that fosters transformation. Instead of looking only at attendance, giving, or other numbers, they also focus intently on bringing their people to maturity.

Much has been written of the exploits of the heroes of World War II, but what do you know about the drill sergeants who trained them in boot camp? Who was Beethoven’s childhood piano teacher? Who first instructed Serena Williams how to hit a tennis ball? Who taught Lionel Messi to dribble a soccer ball? Trainers are seldom famous. A relational pastor remains largely unknown outside the church. His flock is thankful for the maturity they are developing. Pastors who refuse to be magnified know that their example will encourage the next generation of pastors to stay small-just like Jesus taught.

We can mistake the inflated pastor for a great leader if we believe the world’s definition of greatness. Jesus operates under a different rubric. We find Him adjusting the disciples’ definition when He catches them arguing about who is the greatest. The disciples are debating about which of them would be the biggest winner in the kingdom of heaven. They no doubt have images in their minds of what that looked like, but Jesus flips their picture upside down.

Jesus corrects the disciples by saying, “If anyone would be first, he must be last of all and servant of all” (Mark 9:35 ESV). Apparently, the disciples cannot accept this adjustment. It was too big of a stretch. Jesus must repeat His upside-down definition several times.

On another occasion Jesus calls a little child, placing the child in the middle of the disciples. The men probably looked at each other and wondered what Jesus was doing. With the child standing in the middle He explains, “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever takes the lowly position of this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven” (Matt. 18:3-4). Jesus gives them a visual picture of a small child and basically says, “This is what greatness looks like.” He also brings group identity into the picture. We stop acting like members of God’s kingdom when we inflate ourselves and seek to be great.

Unfortunately, we often build and arrange our churches in ways that can magnify the leader. During many services, the church leader is elevated, standing above the crowd. Do families act like this? We hang large screens above the stage to magnify their face as the Teacher. Their enormous image looms above us as we listen to them disperse wisdom. Do families act like this? The use of video magnification in a church may be necessary, but pastors should simultaneously be modeling “image shrinkification” more often. Leaders are not exempt from Jesus’ upside-down definition of greatness. We, pastors, should be willing to rethink what we do and why we do it.

Emotionally mature leaders always keep relationships more important than ministry. They never sacrifice their congregation’s hesed attachments in order to “do great things.” The horse remains firmly in front of the cart, and every task or ministry they perform from abundant hesed.

A whole-brained church releases transformed disciples into the world like cottonwood seeds in the Colorado wind. Invigorated disciples plant new life in the culture wherever they land. Jesus dispersed His disciples around the world after training them for three years. These disciples and their spiritual descendants changed the fabric of the world. Likewise, we pastors do not focus on changing the world ourselves. Instead, we are trainers who focus on building Christlike character into our people. If we do our job well, our people will change the world.

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Bursting Wineskins is a short (75 page) book by Mack Cunningham describing his search for a more Biblical Church life. The excerpt below reflects on the question of whether you are needed or not.

There is a final important passage of Scripture that has much to say about how God wants Christ’s church to function on this earth. It is found in 1 Corinthians 12:12-26. Here is the text.

“For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ. For in one Spirit we were all baptized into one body-Jews or Greeks, slaves or free-and all were made to drink of one Spirit.

For the body does not consist of one member but of many. If the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” that would not make it any less a part of the body. And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” that would not make it any less a part of the body. If the whole body were an eye, where would be the sense of hearing? If the whole body were an ear, where would be the sense of smell? But as it is, God arranged the members in the body, each one of them, as he chose. If all were a single member, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, yet one body.

The eye cannot say to the hand, “I have no need of you,” nor again the head to the feet, “I have no need of you.” On the contrary, the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and on those parts of the body that we think less honorable we bestow the greater honor, and our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty, which our more presentable parts do not require. But God has so composed the body, giving greater honor to the part that lacked it, that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another. If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together.”

Verses 12 and 13 emphasize that there is only one body because we have all been baptized into Christ by the same Holy Spirit. It has already been noted how far we have strayed from this heavenly reality.

But in spite of this oneness, there are different parts to this body. Verses 14 to 19 declare this important truth. This diversity was intended by God to create an important aspect of interdependence on each other in the body of Christ because the body of Christ needs different parts in order to effectively carry out multiple tasks. As vs. 17 states, ‘If the whole body were an eye, where would be the sense of smelling?’ Thus vs. 19 concludes, ‘If all were a single member, where would the body be?’ Obviously, it would not be able to function as it should. Vs. 22 goes even further when it states that ‘the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are necessary’.

But let us be frank about modern church life. Do we feel indispensable to what goes on in our local assembly, or could the whole organization get along fine without us? Who would run the sound system and coordinate the overheads? Who would staff the Sunday school classes? Who would organize and show up for a church building workday? Do these activities seem indispensable to you? There is only one very important contribution that each believer makes in most local churches and that is their tithe. Without regular tithing, a full-time staff and maintenance of a building could not be supported. This would put an end to that local church’s existence.

Congregations are becoming increasingly unstable as families choose where to attend depending on personal need fulfillment. This transience is partly due to the modern church’s structure that communicates they want you to keep showing up but really don’t have any dire need of you, just your tithe. Any need for each other is usually generated by friendships that are formed and social life that is shared among members. To actually value and rely on another believer’s spiritual qualities and gifts is rare. Unity in the body of Christ has been seriously undermined by one part of the body communicating to another part, in effect, ‘I have no need of you’ (vs. 21).

There must be something more that each believer is to contribute to the body that makes each one very necessary. Verses 21 through 26 point out that there is a problem with human perception when it comes to how important each part of the body is. Those we see as ‘weaker’ are indispensable. They are more important than we naturally think. Therefore, those we deem less honorable are to be honored more than those we would naturally give more honor to. This is not a psychological ploy to make everybody feel better about themselves. Nor is it sociological manipulation to maintain equanimity. It is wise counsel given to congregations to combat our natural ways of evaluating people and tune into the spiritual value that each believer possesses. Unfortunately, modern church life has ignored this counsel and heaps praise on those who already are ‘more honored’-typically these are pastors and worship leaders. I suppose one could try to give more honor to the ‘laity, but it would seem trite to heap praise on someone for their faithfulness in passing out bulletins.

The last two verses (25 & 26) emphasize how connected each part of the body of Christ is to all the other parts. We are to show the same care for one another. When one suffers, we all suffer. When one is honored, we all rejoice together. Frankly, my own sense of connection to other believers varies, depending on how involved I am with them. It could be that this is another time when the phrase ‘on earth as it is in heaven’ applies. There is a spiritual connectivity that exists in Christ’s universal church that we are dimly aware of in our earthly church life.

Our natural tendencies as to how we evaluate people and engage with them are to be changed in light of who we now are in Christ. It is very challenging to see our local fellowship as actual members of the body of Christ and not just a social gathering. We gravitate to, and spend time with, those we like or admire with little thought of others. And we don’t see the hidden giftedness in most of our fellow believers because we are functioning in a church structure that inhibits our spiritual growth and expression.

Our appreciation of, and how we value, other believers would certainly increase as we saw their spiritual giftedness in action. We would look afresh at others if we saw the Holy Spirit impact the church through them. Up to this point I have focused on how we meet together. One can hopefully see how important a ‘testimony time’ is when we gather. We can share how the Holy Spirit has been working through us and impacting us personally during the week. This kind of sharing certainly is important in gaining insight into other believers and increasing our appreciation of them. But this kind of sharing rarely takes place in mid-week meetings, let alone any Sunday service.

But some giftedness is manifest outside the local gatherings in the communal activities we have and the secular activities we are involved in. It is there that the Holy Spirit does most of His work through us. But if we don’t get involved with other believers outside our gathering together, we will never see their spiritual side in action. That is why our Kingdom life together has to be more than a series of meetings. Time must be invested in order to foster intimate relationships. But the individualistic and self-centered lifestyles of the modern church do not foster development of intimate relationships.

Let me sum up the line of reasoning I have put forth in this chapter. Each believer in Christ has value and has an indispensable function in the church. But most believers don’t recognize this value in themselves, let alone others. There are three main reasons this is the case. First, there is very little opportunity for giftedness to be demonstrated in the modern church system. Second, no time is allowed for saints to give testimonies of what the Holy Spirit has been doing in their lives or share any edifying verses from scripture. And third, our individual lifestyles minimize the time we need to get together outside the normal meetings in order to get to know one another. Hopefully, it is becoming clearer to my reader that this is not something that can be corrected by trying harder or being more aware. There needs to be a structural change in how we fundamentally ‘do church’ and prioritize our personal lives in order to address these kinds of problems.

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I took a chance when I purchased The Other Half of Church by Jim Wilder & Michel Hendricks, but how often can you get advice from a Neurotheologian? This book is terrific and I would recommend it to everyone. Below is an excerpt about the benefits of joy. I posted a second excerpt that you can read here.

As I studied more about the role of joy in spiritual formation, I saw the benefits piling up. When Jim told me that he discovered the importance of joy and brought it to his counseling practice, he saw drastic changes in the lives of his patients. His clinic treated difficult cases that other clinics and churches had given up on, and most patients arrived to their first session in a state of severely low joy. Previously, the clinic would need to hospitalize a large percentage of these patients during their treatment. Their counseling sessions would send them into such deep trauma that they could no longer function. Jim and the other therapists had come to accept that hospitalization was a normal part of recovery.

Once the clinic started focusing on building patients’ joy before treating their trauma, hospitalization rates plummeted to almost zero. They were filling up their clients’ gas tanks with joy fuel before beginning the heavy work of trauma recovery. Trying to do emotionally taxing work with an empty tank is like running a marathon without having eaten food for a month. Eventually your body will shut down for lack of energy. Jim’s patients would emotionally collapse. We run the same danger in our churches and families when we do not build our joy together as a part of ministry. We eventually drain our tanks and run on empty.

Joy helps us regulate our emotions and endure suffering. Jesus refused to relinquish joy in the midst of His suffering on the cross. When we are able to stay relationally connected to others and God, we experience joy while we suffer. Joy does not remove our pain, but it gives us the strength to endure. Remember that joy is relational, so “joy in suffering” means that God and our community are glad to be with us in our distress. They do not allow us to suffer alone. We are able to bear our suffering like Jesus, “who for the joy set before Him endured the cross” (Heb. 12:2 NASB).

Contrary to what some preachers say in their sermons on Jesus’ “seven last words,” He never lost touch of His Father’s face shining on Him as He was tortured and humiliated. “For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God” (Heb. 12:2). He could see through the angry faces in the crowd to the kind and steady gaze of His Father. His joy sustained Him. The author of Hebrews exhorts us to handle our suffering the same way, “fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith” (12:2 NASB). Jesus’ face helps us persevere through the pain of life.

It is important to remember that joy is not strictly an emotion. We might refer to it as a supra-emotion because it can go on top of and connect with other emotions. For example, if I lose my job, this is usually not considered a joyful occasion. Instead, I am probably feeling some combination of sadness, fear, and anger. However, when I experience these unpleasant emotions and can simultaneously feel that God is with me, I have added joy into the mix. If I have close friends who are also happy to be with me in my loss, my joy magnifies even more. Now I’m feeling sad and joyful. Fearful and joyful. Angry and joyful. Joy does not replace the unpleasant emotions; instead it combines with my emotions to keep me relationally connected in distress.

The importance of joy to our brain highlights the fact that we must suffer in community. We were not meant to suffer alone. We need to lean on God and on our people in times of distress. We naturally do this when a family member dies. Everyone comes together in order to share the sadness. We tell stories about the deceased. We eat together. We sit in silence. We are joyful (not happy) because we want to suffer together. This is the definition of joy: I want to be with you. Joy is relational in its essence.

Joy is the foundation for a secure bond with God. When I trust that God is happy to be with me’ and is smiling at me, this joy naturally removes fear from the relationship. A goal we have in our bond with God is to nurture a loving relationship until it has no fear. One of Jesus’ disciples explains it well: “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love” (1 John 4:18). Joy is the path to a fearless love for God.

Our identity is built and formed by joy-bonded relationships. The identity center in our brain grows in response to joy, which helps us act like ourselves in all situations. In a performance-based relationship or community, our identity becomes distorted because we feel the need to perform. When we put on a pretend self, our joy starts decreasing. We can build joy only with our true self. When churches foster a performance-based environment that encourages us to simply put on a happy face when we are suffering, it will quickly run out of joy.

I have already mentioned that joy helps us experience God’s presence in our bodies. I could keep listing more benefits, but let me quote a book Jim coauthored:

“When we are the sparkle in someone’s eyes, their face lights up with a smile when they see us. We feel joy. From the moment we are born, joy shapes the chemistry, structure and growth of our brain. Joy lays the foundation for how well we will handle relationships, emotions, pain and pleasure throughout our lifetime. Joy creates an identity that is stable and consistent over time. Joy gives us the freedom to share our hearts with God and others. Expressing our joyful identity creates space for others to belong. Joy gives us the freedom to live without masks because, in spite of our weaknesses, we know we are loved. We are not afraid of our vulnerabilities or exposure. Joy gives us the freedom from fear to live from the heart Jesus gave us. We discover increasing delight in becoming the people God knew we could be.”

God designed us to live on a rich diet of joy-filled relationships. Communities that take joy building seriously will experience all of the benefits listed above and more. Since joy happens when people are glad to be together, take a moment to remember your own experience in joyful groups. Have you seen any of these benefits of joy?

I feel like I belong
I feel more stable when things go wrong
It is easier to be myself
I feel free to share my heart with God and others

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