In Western society it’s difficult to do life together, but it does happen, it can be sustained and it can be life-changing. I pray these stories encourage you to keep meeting, keep searching and start gathering. This story is told by Bob Good.

My name is Bob Good. My wife, Ellen, and I have four children, all in their twenties, and one grandson. I have been a mechanical engineer throughout my life and am currently about two-thirds done with my Master’s in Theological Studies at Midwestern Baptist Theological Seminary. I received Christ when I was 19 years old through a megachurch located near my home. It was through their ministries that I learned the gospel and gave my life to Christ.
My first experience with small group life occurred back in the 1990s at that same megachurch. Our Sunday school class was enormous, with about 400 people attending. Recognizing the challenge in building deeper relationships in such a large setting, the church began monthly cell groups. It was through these cell groups that I truly experienced meaningful small group life. Although the meetings were only monthly, they had a significant impact on me. I began researching cell groups and eventually discovered house church literature. Reading Steve Atkerson’s book, “Moving Toward a House Church Theology,” ignited a passion within me that continues to this day.
I have been involved in house church ministry for approximately 20 years. After leaving the megachurch, my family and I joined a house church in our area, where we stayed for about 13 years. It was one of the most fulfilling church experiences of my life, characterized by deep involvement in each other’s lives and genuine care. About six years ago, we began efforts to establish our own house church. This journey has been challenging due to various circumstances, including my mother-in-law living with us and her health struggles. The COVID-19 pandemic in 2020 further complicated things, especially since my mother-in-law had lung issues, and we wanted to ensure her safety.
Despite these challenges, the Lord consistently provided spaces for our meetings. We initially met in apartment complex common areas, spent about a year meeting at a retirement home, and even used a library conference room for a summer. Since last summer, we have resumed meeting at our home. Sadly, my mother-in-law passed away, a heartbreaking event that nonetheless opened a new chapter for our church. Currently, we are associated with a few other groups around town. Together with our original house church, we now have four very small groups that occasionally meet as one larger group quarterly.
One unexpected challenge we’ve encountered is that our house church primarily attracts singles, with very few married couples and no families with children remaining long-term. Singles typically have more flexible schedules but tend to move around frequently, making it difficult to establish and maintain a stable group. This differs greatly from my previous house church experience, where five families with children attended consistently.
Authentic Christian community has profoundly impacted me, although I’m still unsure exactly why. Perhaps growing up in a broken home has deepened my desire for meaningful connections. Over time, these groups become like a second family, centered around caring, loving, teaching, and praying for one another-something I feel traditional church environments struggle to achieve. House churches, with their emphasis on open participation and engagement with scripture, foster deeper and more transformative experiences than passive listening typically provides.
Starting a new house church can be incredibly challenging, and I firmly believe it requires a calling from God. Without such a calling, maintaining the necessary passion and persistence becomes very difficult. Since starting our own groups in 2019, we have seen many people come and go due to job changes, health issues, and life circumstances.
To summarize, I describe house church as H.O.M.E.:
– *H*: Historical precedence-house churches align with biblical norms.
– *O*: Open participation-actively engaging with the text and each other rather than being passive observers.
– *M*: Meaningful relationships-groups quickly become extended families.
– *E*: Efficient and Economy-house churches avoid the high costs of traditional buildings and salaries, focusing resources directly on ministry and community building.
When combined, these elements make house church a powerful, transformative, and vibrant expression of Christian community.
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