Here is the second-half of Unsung Heroes–Houston. In Western society it’s difficult to do life together, but it does happen, it can be sustained and it can be life-changing. I pray these stories encourage you to keep meeting, keep searching and start gathering. This continues the story told by Terry Stanley. You can check out Part 1 here.
As things began to deteriorate in the Bryan/College station group (I’ll explain why both groups fell apart later), I sold my house and moved my family to Houston in 2008. My wife and I began to open our home for hospitality, meetings and fellowship. We only knew a couple of families in the Houston area who were interested in meeting outside the traditional churches. We met, we ate together, worshipped, prayed for one another and read the Bible together. About this time, a couple of popular books were published regarding house church. This caused a large influx of people wanting to meet in homes. The group in Houston grew quickly. Within a couple of years, the living rooms were full again. We were sharing life with 12-14 families.
Church life in Houston was much different than it was in the previous two groups. Houston is obviously a big city. We were more spread out. We were certainly involved in each other’s lives and were together a lot. But geography also affected the ability to be spontaneous to some degree. However, the major difference in the Houston group from 2008-2022 were the people who came.
Apparently, the books that came out about house church in the late 2000’s had a lot of information about what was wrong with traditional church meetings. As a result, I would say almost every family that was meeting in homes with us in Houston was attending out of a reaction to what was wrong. Not because of a revelation of what the church truly is or a revelation of Christ, but because of what it was not.
These were hurt people, rejects, debaters, rebels and spiritual babes in Christ. That was Ok with me and my wife. We loved them and taught and modeled church life. We received from them too. But the Houston group became a revolving door.
People usually attended because they were reacting to something or didn’t like something. That only goes so far. When the water got hot and relationships “got real”, as they do in real church life people would leave. Of course they would find some reason as to why the house church was wrong too, because that was their foundation. Some would come for a couple of months, some for a few years, but inevitably every family that we met with in Houston from 2008-2022 lacked the conviction and revelation of what church really is. Most of them left and joined common traditional church groups (what I call “cults” or church franchises). They traded the freedom of true body life and the ability to function in their gifts for following a man, sitting silent on a pew, and having to pay money for it.
It’s been tough for me and my wife. It’s been tough because we have never had the same experience of body life that we had from 1989-2008. Our early experiences of church life had many similarities to the book of Acts. The people we met with from 1989-2008 had their foundation in the “Jesus movement” of the 1970’s. Coffee shop church and the charismatic Jesus hippie movement (See the movie “Jesus Revolution”). It has never been the same since. Only recently in the last couple of years, the group in Houston has started to change in a more positive direction. We seem to be with more people now who have a true revelation of the church and are not meeting out of a reaction.
Having met in homes for so long has exposed us to a lot of things. I would say the most important thing for the longevity of a group is what I call “the seed of Christ”. Jesus has to be the center. If the group is not focused on the person of Jesus first and foremost, there will be no life and it will not last. You can only meet so long because of what is wrong with this or that, or any other of the thousands of reasons people want to meet. Although I see this as the primary reason for the failure of groups, there are multiple roads that will get you there.
The Church is a living organism, and living organisms are delicate. Any focus other than Jesus Himself will begin the demise of a group. Common distractions may be healing and deliverance, a man, a doctrine, relationships, various teachers, evangelism. These things can be great and Biblical, but they can’t be the main focus or it will die.
A love for the Bible is not the same as a love for Jesus. The Bible points us to Jesus and Jesus certainly points us to the Bible. But people who place the Bible above Jesus Himself, wind up being more about their own doctrines, what and who is wrong, and they would rather debate than love each other and worship Christ. People who elevate the Bible above Christ become toxic in the church. Worship (Jesus focused, not music focused), prayer that is focused on Christ, love for one another, and being totally in love with and captivated by Jesus are the only things that will sustain a group.
Secondly, the stability, longevity, and health of a group has a whole lot to do with how well you can coexist with one another while opposing and variations in doctrine exist. Brother A believes in “once saved always saved” and brother B does not. Pick your doctrine – it doesn’t matter. Calvinism, dominion theologies, KJV only, predestination, flat earth, you name it. I’ve met with them all. And you know what? What someone else believes is not hugely important to me. I just care about who you know (Jesus). I don’t even care that much about what I believe. My doctrines and beliefs are always a work in progress. I could be wrong about my current beliefs and I probably am. Romans 14 teaches us to “let each man be fully convinced in his own mind”. You must not feel threatened by others beliefs. And you can’t really take your own too seriously. And equally as important, you can’t try to change others to believe what you do. Otherwise, seeds of discord and strife will take over the relationships and ultimately the entire group.
Usually a person’s pet doctrines are not part of “the gospel”. Jesus Christ must be first and really the only thing that matters. Paul said that he “purposed to know nothing among you, except Christ and Him crucified”. Christianity is not a belief system. It is Christ in you. This is rarely understood, which is why it is rare for groups to last very long – unless they are propped up by strong personalities, programs, events, and money.
Why did the two groups eventually collapse? The first group I was a part of in Waco, TX near Baylor University from 1989-1993 (no affiliation with David Koresh and the Branch Davidians) collapsed (in my opinion, I was not there when it fell apart because I had moved to Bryan/College Station with the 5 families) because they began to take their eyes off of Jesus as I’ve mentioned above. Certain doctrines brought by a particular elder had become the focus (I will not mention the doctrines because they are not important), but the doctrines caused the group to seek the things of earth and things in this earthly life. Eventually, the seed of Christ was lost and Jesus was no longer the only focus. The group slowly disbanded, people moved away, and people joined the local franchised churches.
The group in Bryan/College Station disintegrated because, again, an elder had introduced error. I confess that I was a part of that error. I had this elder on a pedestal and whatever he said, I thought was true. I followed him right into a ditch. I was considered a key brother in the Bryan/College station group and my joining myself to the elder in error made matters worse because I supported him and propagated his messages of error. I am sorry. I continue to feel very broken about it to this day.
Although plural leadership was present in both groups, both groups made the mistake of thinking too highly of a certain man. When a “leading brother” introduces a heresy (which takes your eyes of Jesus as the main focus), even seasoned brothers can take the bait and begin to adopt the false teaching – thus spreading it to the whole group. All men are prone to error (that includes me). I have learned there must be an equal playing field in the hearts of the people in the group. We must check one another. Scripture is the final authority, not a man. No matter how experienced or how impressive a man is, he is just a fallible brother. Not if, but when, he teaches an error, it must be checked by others. This is not only a service to the brother, but also a safeguard for the group.
If any man is on a pedestal, the group will eventually fail. Because every brother will fail at some point in time either as a perceived failing or a true failing. Even if a man doesn’t fail, he will fail in the eyes of others at times. In other words, none of us can live up to each other’s expectations, even if we are wrong or right. This is a major reason groups take their eyes off of Christ and lose the seed of Christ being the center – because a man becomes too big and too important.
There are multiple subjects to talk about when it comes to church life and church dynamics: Leadership, men’s and women’s roles, childcare, money, how to start a group, how to share life together, etc. I’ve taken all of my experiences in body life and put it all into a book called “The Way Church Was Meant to Be”. Not that I am trying to get anyone to read the book, it’s just that there is no point in repeating it all here because there is a lot to say and my thoughts have already been recorded if you are interested in reading more. The chapters are freely posted on the website, see link below.
Although church life and church dynamics are very important, to me the more important subject is “what happened to me at the school playground and how can we all live there”. That experience sent me on a very deep and lifelong journey to understand all of that. I also put all of that into 2 books, “Mysteries of the Kingdom” and “From the Head to the Heart”. Again, much to say about the what, the how, and the why, of walking in a deep and real experiential relationship with Jesus Christ.
My life long quest to fully understand and live in constant communion with Jesus has led me into some amazing and uncommon insights. I have felt compelled to help others break free from their captivity and live the life God intended for them to live. I see people suffering in captivity everywhere. This desire to help is what led me to obtain the credentials necessary to become a Christian therapist. My doctorate and state licensure are only credentials to me. The credentials are for people to feel more comfortable with me and to seek help. I rarely use anything I learned in school during “therapy”. I am only listening to the Holy Spirit for insight and wisdom for each person. The main thing I learned from my doctorate in clinical psychology is that psychology doesn’t work! Secular psychology omits the spirit. It is only the study of the mind, will and emotions – the psyche or “the soul” as Watchman Nee would put it.
Thank you for reading. And thank you Jesus for this wonderful and most difficult journey of my life to this point!
Feel free to contact Terry and learn more about him. Check out his links www.homechutchhelp.com, www.homechurchhouston.com, www.cypresschristiancounseling.com. georgecanchat@gmail.com.
Also click these links to read excerpts from his book The Way Church Was Meant to Be. First excerpt, second excerpt.
I would love to hear from those who have been doing organic church for an extended time. Contact me (Jonathan Rovetto) at 414.217.2189 or at jirovetto@yahoo.com. Don’t miss the next Unsung Heroes, subscribe below.